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Experiment #2: Be Fun

Posted on: May 5, 2010

Happy Cinco De Mayo!

So I may not be from Mexico but I plan on having a margarita (or three), why? Because everyone deserves a reason to celebrate! Adding fun in your life is just as important as getting an education, starting a family, showering, and cutting those plastic rings on the tops of 6-packs of soda cans. I know my fondest memories are of the “good times” and not the last email I sent, the last 100 calories I burned on the treadmill, or the last TV show I watched. Give yourself a guilt-free reason to indulge every once in awhile.

With that said, I’m going to assume that everyone wants to be able to describe their relationships/dating experiences/single lives as fun… no? This is one thing I am prepared to say “I DO” to. By the same token, are you sure that YOU are fun?? I’m sorry if I offended you, but seriously, think about it.

1. Are you moody? Do you find yourself snapping at your friends or significant other on random days, when you’re tired, when you’re intoxicated, when it’s that time of the month, when you’re horny, or when you’re insecure? News flash: NO ONE likes being around someone that has mood swings.  Metaphorically, if you had a choice to walk on eggs shells or solid ground, unless you are Jesus, I’m pretty sure you would choose solid, reliable, un-moody ground. Well same goes for your love interest. Stop being so sensitive and make a choice to keep your emotions in check. Accept life as unpredictable and learn to handle it with class. Who would you rather live with?

OR

2. Are you needy? Do your thoughts and plans revolve around someone else making you laugh, buying you something, calling you, planning your evening, or complimenting you? Do you constantly long for attention from men and are unable to have fun without it? Just stop it. A popular, best selling book, Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov makes these excellent points:

a. “Sometimes a man deliberately won’t call, just to see how you’ll respond.”

b. “It is your attitude about yourself that a man will adopt.”

c. “If you start out dependent, it turns him off. But if it is something he can’t have, it becomes more of a challenge for him to get it.”

d. “Act like a prize and you’ll turn him into a believer.”

e. “The biggest variable between a bitch and a woman who is too nice is fear. The bitch shows that she’s not afraid to be without him.”

f. “If the choice is between her dignity and having a relationship, the bitch will prioritize her dignity above all else… She is passionate about something other than him.”

g. “Regardless of how pretty a woman is, looks alone will not sustain his respect. Appearance may pull him in, but it is your independence that will turn him on.”

3. Do you have a sense of humor? Now this one is tricky… are the people around you actually laughing or just laughing to be nice or to get you to shut up? Practice being self aware.

4. Do you have something to say? Stop reading this post if you like hanging out with boring people. Boring people tend to agree with everything and have an opinion on nothing. Example:

Mark: “Annie, where would you like to go to dinner?”

Annie: “Oh I don’t care, you pick.”

Mark: “Okay, do you want Mexican food or Italian food?”

Annie: “Oh either one is fine.”

Mark: “Okay, do you want to drive or do you want me to?”

Annie: “Oh it’s up to you.”

Mark: “Do you want to have sex now?”

Annie: “If you feel like it.”

BORING!! I would rather have dinner (and dessert, wink wink) with myself!

If you answered yes or half a yes to any of the above questions, then be self-aware and try Experiment #2: Be Fun. Here are some ways to increase your fun rating:

1. Take life light-heartedly. Sh*t happens, and not just to you. Embrace life’s challenges. Reacting like an adult makes you more fun to be around.

2. Educate yourself so you can have a legitimate opinion. In case you did not know, it is OKAY to read books and news articles. Think outside the box and be able to hold a conversation.

3. Be independent. Do things alone such as shopping alone, working out alone, going to the bathroom alone, eating alone. If you do not have fun with yourself, why would someone else?

4. Have a creative, spontaneous sense of humor. Saying the same or similar punch lines may be an effort to be funny, but making an effort does not mean you are successful. And do not steal other people’s material, that’s just annoying.

Lastly, have fun with the experiment! Try various things and let me know what you discover!

And here is a picture for your viewing pleasure… muah!

Buena Suerte,

Senorita Cleopatra

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