Cleo's Dating Blog

It Just Happens

Posted on: January 3, 2011

Does life just happen? Was it coincidence that you met your future best friends at the local lounge? Was it by chance that you got the job you wanted? Were you meant to be at the grocery store when your next boyfriend was?

So many times people have told me, “Don’t worry about your life or finding love, what’s meant to be will happen.” Although a nice thought, I’m not sure I agree. In hindsight, you could say anything was “meant to be”. “Oh, you were meant to be in horrific traffic so that you avoided being in that car accident!” Really?? Or, “It was meant to be that your hairdresser f*d up your hair because now you saved money.” I find that the meant to be mentality is just a general excuse used to explain the random, unpredictable moments in life.

I find it more accurate that moments in life are caused by a series of events and choices you make, rather than by pure chance. You choose what places you go to, what appearance you give off, and how you react to your environment. You choose what you wear, who you are with, and what risks you take. Thus, if there is something (or someone, hehe) in your life that you want, you need to go after it. What a gamble it would be to leave it up to chance! No no one wins the lottery without buying a lotto ticket. The only moments in my life that I regret are always the ones where I am too afraid or too shy to try. For example, as a single gal, I’ve never regretted hitting on a guy! It’s always better to satisfy your curiosity.

So, how do you make sure you are making the best choices to get you where you want to go? Follow these steps:

1. Find out what the necessary steps are in achieving your goals. How? Do research. Ask for advice. Listen. Experiment. Get a mentor. One of my greatest role models is Richard Branson, entrepreneur and founder of numerous companies, most notably Virgin Records and Virgin Airlines. His book, Screw it, Let’s do it, may be a good starting point for inspiration.

2. Take action. Don’t just think about what you want and what you should do. Take initiative and just do it. If you want to lose 5 pounds, put down that chocolate.

3. Stay persistent. Nothing ever happens over night. I mean, I have been writing this blog for 9 months and still barely get any comments from readers (hehe)! Be brave and stay strong. What I find most helpful is having a small core group of friends and family that you can space out your venting to, when needed, and ask for advice from- but don’t forget you need to do the same for them as well.

4. Periodically reevaluate your position. Make note of your progress  and take time to be proud of yourself.

I am going to try to do this everyday and will keep you updated on what I find works best. Good luck on your hunt!

Thinking of you,

Cleo

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