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It is not uncommon for my favorite yoga teacher to make me laugh during class. Last week, to emphasize the importance of starting small and building intensity within each pose, she used a kissing analogy (which I obviously could relate to).

To reiterate, kissing, as with most things, has a natural progression. No one interested in making out starts off approaching another person with his or her lips plumped, mouth wide open, and tongue sticking out. This would be freaky, in a bad way.

Starting with smaller, less invasive kisses are a crucial stepping stone to achieving make out status. Plowing straight through without heed could be more catastrophic than beneficial.

This concept can be applied to many areas in life.

For example, I have a lot of friends that are actors (although, years ago I never pictured that I would like any) and most are not content with the status of their careers. However, I say, keep kissing. It takes time to build up intensity and the chemistry is not always there when you expect it. The problem arises if you get discouraged and just stand there with your lips perched, wondering why no one is making out with you.

Cleo is not afraid of kissing. I have a lot of goals and I will keep kissing until I find what I want.

The trick to discovering the ultimate make out moment, however, is to know which kisses are not worth your time. There is not enough time to go around kissing everyone. If you want something, go after it, but make sure you choose wisely or you may fall off track into the lips of the wrong person. Be picky with your time, energy, and kisses.

If you do find something with potential, right before it shifts from just lips to tongue can be nerve-wracking. I believe that right before any moment of greatness is a time where doubt seeps in. Am I doing this right? Am I meant to be here? What if it doesn’t work out? This is when you have to stay focused and kick doubt out of your head. True, it may not work out or be all that. You may even regret it. But, as they as say, the greatest failure in life is being afraid to try.

I also know a lot of people who are stuck on their ex’s or attached to someone who is unavailable (why are you looking at me??). Just because you may highly enjoy the making out, think critically about whether the anxiety or growth stagnation associated is worth it. Sometimes you have to be strong and cut out certain things to rise to the next level.

If you skimmed this post and have arrived at the conclusion, basically I am saying to keep tying and working towards your goals while also understanding that it is a process. The process becomes easier if you can learn to enjoy the now. I am not saying that I want to make out with you.

Best of luck,

Cleo

P.S. Don’t forget about my Valentine’s Day party. Feb. 14 at 8pm-ish. The Redbury Hotel. Click the pic below for more info.